Are we just going through the motions?
There are days when I feel like a robot. As much as I like having a routine, I do like to break out of them once in awhile. However, being a parent, it’s easier if you have a routine. It helps everyone with expectations and also, things go a little smoother than if you just do things randomly. That may have worked when you’re single, or a couple without kids but right now that’s what works for us.
Maybe it also depends on what your situation is. Since both the hubby and I work full time, we have a schedule and we have limited time with our son after work. Of course, my preference would be to maximize my time with our son but sometimes that’s not possible. There are chores to be done, school assignments to deal with, not to mention doing your own hobbies.
I read an interesting entry from an online friend about how she doesn’t want to be like Frank and April Wheeler from Revolutionary Road. I don’t think we’re like them even though sometimes their lifestyle kinda reflects ours. When we moved up here, I already expected that communication with old friends and family will decrease because of the distance and with schedules. Moving to suburbia was always my plan. As much as I love visiting cities, I’m so used to living in suburbia. I know some people don’t like it but we’ve adjusted well to it.
I still wonder sometimes if we should stay here long-term. For now I think we are. Our lives, my life, was so much different 5.5 years ago before we moved up here. Would I change what I have now? Probably not. I already know that I don’t lead an exciting life compared to some of my friends down South but now that we have Connor, I am actually finding more and more family-friendly things to do. I’ve gone to more places in the Sacramento region in the past year and a half than the whole 5 years we’ve been here so that wasn’t such a bad thing. I have to admit, it takes work to make everyone in the family happy. Although now we’re still at the phase where Connor can’t really complain yet but I know in time, we will have to go to places where HE wants to go.